I read something the other day which stated the idea that not everyone who comes into your life is meant to stay. It’s an interesting thought if you really do consider it. This particular blogger’s statement circled around relationships even though this could certainly apply to any sort of situation. For the assumably obvious, however, lets stick to relationships…
I’ve often blamed myself, as I think we all tend to do, for why things go wrong between partners. The important thing to realize here is regardless of how or why it didn’t work out, the focus should be on what you walk away with even if it is while walking away alone. I used to dwell on the why’s, the how’s and the when’s. Questioning, why did it fail, how did it come to be this way when we were seemingly happy or when did it start to fall apart and I not notice? I’d walk away from the failed relationship tired, frustrated, heartbroken and most of all angry at myself for thinking it was me. I was so focused on finding reason and the negativity that came with it that I was ignoring a very important aspect, the MOST important aspect, that I didn’t have to walk away as an angry, heartbroken person who needed an explanation as to why. Nope, I could accept its purpose as is and walk away taking with me the less obvious things that I had gained rather than what I had lost. Ironically, I could even walk away thankful. Sounds silly, to an extent, but what you can obtain from any kind of relationship can often be more valuable than you may initially realize.
I met someone not very long ago and things didn’t work out in the way I had expected. When our relationship fell apart I admittedly walked away tightly clutching my heart which felt like it had been shattered into pieces. Honestly, as most people would agree when they go through a break-up, it’s devastating to some extent. I immediately blamed myself for everything that went wrong and felt like a complete failure. Little did I realize though that I wasn’t really a failure at all. No, I was actually right where I needed to be, in that very moment, me just as I was. Even shattered, I had undoubtedly gained something so valuable…
Yet, still, there I was, broken and angry so how can that be? Well, regardless of my emotional state I had still walked away from a situation that didn’t suit me. I had walked away still hanging on to the hope that I’d make it through nonetheless. And I did. You always do. It was in that broken state though that a light went on somewhere deep in my heart that showed me, this person, just like everyone you meet in life, DOES hold a place in your heart but not how you’d necessarily think. Rather, it’s as if they leave an imprint of what we’ve gained from them and your relationship together. In this case, I received strength. Once I started to understand what I had gained I began to realize the magnitude in which it was positively impacting my life. I began to see this unquestionable strength that I was both physically and emotionally more powerful than I once thought, a strength to pursue whatever it is that my soul desires, a strength to trust the path I am walking down, a strength to know that I am truly worth it, a strength to believe that not only is it okay that my heart is filled with those imprints but to be proud of what those imprints make up. Also a strength to see that my heart is filled with a love that is meant for someone and that someone will guard it as if it’s their own. More importantly even a strength to hold out for that very kind of love. What I gained from this particular relationship has shown me so much of who I am and what I am capable of. I am grateful for the ability to love myself even in a moment of heartbreak. Though it’s not always easy when relationships don’t work out the key is to continue to remember the importance of always moving forward. To know that not only is there purpose within each moment, but you have the ability to walk away grateful from every experience in which you encounter.
I have been trying, relentlessly for months to create a protein bar I was happy with. Most of the time the outcome was a dry, crumbly, flavorless, wannabe bar. Finally, after throwing away more failures then I’d like to admit, I created one that I am so proud of. These bars are packed with tons of superfoods like nuts, seeds, grains, healthy fats AND have 10g of plant based protein per bar. It’s a great on-the-go snack or pre workout bite to fuel you up!
Superfood Protein Bars
Makes: 8 bars/Prep time: 5 minutes/Bake time: 20 minutes
- 2 c Trader Joe’s Ancient Grain and Super Seed Oatmeal (can sub 1 c old fashioned oats + 1 c grain and seed mix like dry quinoa, pumpkin seeds, flax seeds, chia seeds, etc. though the taste and nutrition will change slightly)
- 1/2 c Bob’s Red Mill Vanilla Protein Powder Nutritional Booster
- 2 tbsp ground flax
- 1 tsp cinnamon
- pinch of sea salt
- 1/4 c almond butter
- 1/4 c honey
- 1/2 c unsweetened almond milk
- 1/4 c dairy-free chocolate chips
- Preheat oven to 350F and lightly spray or grease an 8×8 baking dish.
- In a large bowl, combine the dry ingredients, oat mix through salt, and set aside.
- In a separate small bowl, mix together the almond butter, honey and almond milk (if your almond butter is too thick to mix microwave on high for about 3o seconds or just enough to soften).
- Add the wet ingredients to the dry and fold until mixture is sticky and clumps together.
- Pour the mixture into the pan and press down firmly with a spatula or your hands to distribute evenly.
- Place in the oven and bake for about 20 minutes or until edges are lightly golden brown.
- When ready, remove from the oven and allow to cool before slicing and drizzling with melted chocolate (to melt, microwave chocolate chips on high for 30 seconds).
- Store bars in the fridge or freezer until ready to enjoy!
Nutrition: (per bar) 250 calories/ 10.7g fat/ 32.3g carbs/ 6.7g fiber/ 11g sugar/ 10.9g protein